Deconstructing the Myth of Perfectionism

Perfectionism is often praised as motivation or having high standards. It is commonly seen as the thing that keeps us striving and successful. In reality, perfectionism tends to do the opposite. It tightens self-criticism, fuels anxiety, and makes it hard to feel settled or satisfied, even when we are doing our best.

Growing up, and even now at times, my inner critic echoes the belief that I am not enough or not good enough. This is a theme I hear often in therapy. Perfectionism thrives on this belief. It suggests that if we do things flawlessly, we will finally feel worthy, accepted, or at ease.

Over time, this mindset can become exhausting. It often leads to procrastination, burnout, and a fear of starting or finishing things because the outcome might fall short. What many people do not realize is that perfectionism often began as a way to cope or stay safe. It once served a purpose.

Healing involves shifting from perfection to progress. Progress allows room for mistakes, learning, and rest. It values effort over outcome and invites self-compassion. When we focus on progress, we begin to move forward with more ease and a gentler relationship with ourselves.

Let’s take a moment to reflect:

Where in your life might you be holding yourself to perfection, and what could it feel like to offer yourself permission to be good enough instead?

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About the Author

Karen MacKeigan, RP (Qualifying), RSSW, is a trauma-informed Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) and Registered Social Service Worker based in Toronto. With over five years of experience supporting adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse through her work at The Gatehouse, Karen brings an empathetic, client-centered approach to psychotherapy. She draws from a variety of therapeutic modalities to create a warm, safe, and collaborative space where clients feel heard and supported. Karen holds a BA in Psychology, an MA in Counselling Psychology, and diplomas in both Early Childhood Education and Addiction and Mental Health.

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